Afterlife and Relationships
Monday, January 10, 2011 at 12:57AM Q: My boyfriend doesn't believe in any afterlife, only in some sort of energy transfer after death. He says he doesn't believe in "continuity of consciousness" as individuals. I don't understand this view, and I want our relationship to continue on after death. How can we resolve this dispute? B. T.
A: Can you focus your attention on the here and now, which you are living, and which is all that any of us have? Remember that there is no past or future. The only thing that exists of the past is what we bring with us into the present, and the only thing that exists of the future is what we project from the present.
Can you, with your boyfriend, discard the notion of a "dispute," which dissipates the energy you could be investing in building a good life together, right here in the "now"? The dispute is carried on in the present, and you can shift the energy and transfer it to worthy relationship-building areas.
If you do this, and if the conflict re-surfaces in other disputes between you, it may be time to rethink the relationship and draw your energy close, building the internal relationship with yourself before expanding it to include another.
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