Relationship - What do I bring to it?

Q: I am about to lose a man I love dearly.  I have been so hurt in the past.  He understands this but loses patience with me when I need his support and a shoulder to cry on.  He tells me that he didn't hurt me and tries to get me to go to counseling.  How can I make him understand how much his comfort means to me? A.G.

A: I suspect that he already understands how much his comfort means to you.  Perhaps he understands it so well that it makes him uncomfortable.

Look at what you are bringing to this relationship.  If you are bringing the woundedness you carry from past hurts, it will soon become a wounded relationship.  You say you are about to lose him.  Perhaps your wounds have already monopolized this relationship.

What are your strengths?  What is your beauty?  What is your special giftedness?  Bring these qualities to the relationship you value.  And by all means, tend the wounds, but do not expect this man to do it for you, or with you.  Do get professional help.  I wish you the best.