Process vs. Content

Q:  I keep getting in trouble, and it usually stems from feeling inferior to the other person.  For example, my neighbor asked if she could have a few pears from my pear tree.  There are plenty and I had no reason to refuse.  But suddenly I felt like once she tasted my pears she would not like them.  I told her so, and she didn't take any.  I apologized, but she left without taking any.  I felt badly and I'm sure she did too.  What would you suggest?  A.J.

A:  You have defined your problem well; it is a process that occurs within yourself, which shows itself in various situations, one of which is the example you gave regarding your neighbor and your pear tree.

Don't lose your skill of feeling inferior to others.  But do practice bringing balance by enhancing your awareness of your own infinite value.  You may need professional counseling in order to do this.  Meanwhile, refrain from judging yourself when you find yourself feeling inferior.  Accept the feeling with curiosity and interest, "Oh, how interesting!  I'm feeling inferior again."  It is the resistance that locks the pattern in place.  Then bring balance by realizing the gifts you bring to the world -- your smile, and yes, your pears.

Transform the process, and the content -- each separate instance -- will be transformed.  Maybe with the next pear harvest, you will be able to happily present a basket of pears to your neighbor.